Here comes the bride

A sermon preached at Sarah and Dénes Wedding, Saturday December 11^th, 2010 at St Augustine’s Church, Unley

Colossians 3:12-17 & Mark 10:6-9

Families are curious.

…but I will save that for later

I have had some difficulty

separating my priestly role

from my fatherly role.

This is the role of the preacher!

We have had a busy couple of weeks

preparing for this important day.

When we gather for a marriage

we are celebrating

one of God’s mysteries

and the mystery is this:

God made us male and female

For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,

and the two shall become one flesh.

So they are no longer two but one flesh.

The mystery, as Jesus tells us, is that two human beings

are so closely united together when they marry

that they become one.

The products of wildly different and very curious families

are called to be one.

Not by one of them being diminished

and trying to become like the other.

But both, by giving themselves to each other,

become part of something new.

And far from their person being diminished

they are actually increased.

That’s what we call the theology, or theory, of marriage.

St Paul tells Christians about how to engage with this practically.

He uses the language of surrender and submission,

a husband and wife are called

not to selfishly pursue their own ends

but, rather, to see as their first duty

the love, care and nurture of their spouse.

Paul says, we hear today…you must bear with another

(not bully the other into submission)

You must forgive as God forgives you

totally and without game-playing.

And you must express your thankfulness

for each other and to God.

And you must sing….this is likely to happen Dénes

Ohh this is likely to happen,,,but I am slipping into my fatherly role.

it will be a sign of great joy

it will also be a sign of warning

that attention needs to be paid

and you will have to learn Dénes how to sing

and Sarah how to hear Dénes’s singing

which may be different from yours

less in tune,

it may perhaps look like drawing or writing

This may seem like an impossible task

but let us rather see it as a gift and a challenge

from God

to enable you, Dénes Nagy

and you, Sarah Clark

not particularly by our own efforts

though we are to try our hardest

and be at our best (not always possible)

(this is where …bearing with one another and forgiving comes in)

but by recognising that God is working something new in you

So St Paul gives his key advice

what ever you do

Do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus

If you allow the Spirit of Jesus to dwell in you

and in your family

then we can be sure that together we will sing.

May God bless your life together.